Flirting with the opposite gender In The Name of Islam

As salamu alaikum brother and sisters,Alhamdulillah in my previous post i have write about is Celebrating Birthaday In Islam ,Today topic Flirting with the opposite gender In The Name of Islam 

Flirting with the opposite gender In The Name of Islam,

Flirting with the opposite gender is becoming a common practice in our community,, even amongst the most “religious” brothers and sisters.

It seems like facebook is becoming another avenue to "flirt" by joking around on statuses..

Defining straight from the dictionary, the word “flirt” means: to behave or act amorously  without emotional commitment;play with another's affections. 

##Please note that any advice I give is a reminder to myself before anyone else...

It is so easy for these Muslims to look at all of our “flirting” brothers and sisters as sinful , but has anyone tried to advise them in a kind way? Or do they just over look the issue ,

There are Muslims who choose to stay away from the “flirting frenzy” , while avoiding interacting with the opposite gender,unless it is strictly for business reasons. And, if this person chooses to talk with the opposite gender , he/she does so with a business-like attitude, keeping in mind the example of the Prophet Muhammad (S) when talking to non-mahrams...............

While these statements may have a tiny bit of truth to them, we cannot ignore the problems this type of logic leads to. This is a trick of shaytan , which leads a Muslim to commit larger and larger sins. We need to stop the lower levels of Zina before they escalate. 

i have already defined flirting, but what exactly is it? I will provide some examples of communication infused with flirting. For example, You are a sister who wants to know the date of a certain event in the Muslim community, and decide to ask a brother. Here is an example of communication infused with flirting. 

Sister: “ Assalamuallaikum , What day is the event? I am looking forward to you organizing a great event, cause you always do  masha allah =]”

Brother: “ Walaikumsalam, the event is on the 31st. Stop making me blush, we all know the events are only successful because of devoted volunteers like yourself, Mashaallah =D” . 

Sister: “ I am not trying to make you blush, because you know it’s true. You are the best community organizer ever, alhamdulilah.... I would also like to volunteer for this event, can you let me know what you need me to do ??????? =)” 

Brother: “ Of course sister, here is my number 342-127-2537, and meet me at the library before every one else gets there so we can get in some extra planning in for this event”

Sister: “ Sounds like a great idea! ;), count me in,,,,, insha allah”

Here is an example of a conversation with a business----like attitude: 

Sister: “Assalamu allaikum, what day is the event? Insha Allah all goes well with your planning”

Brother: “Walaikumsalam, the event is on the 31st , and Insha Allah all goes well”

Sister: “ I would like to volunteer for this event, so please let me know how I could help out”. . .

Brother: “ Jazakhallahu Khair, it is much appreciated. You could help us by cleaning up at the event. Here is Sr.Sisters number813-000-0000, please contact her first if you have any questions. If she cannot answer them, I would be able to answer your questions inshaAllah, at 281-123-9827“.

Sister: “ Jazakhallahu Khair for your help, inshaAllah I will be able to volunteer, and I am sure Sr.Sister will be able to answer all of my questions inshaAllah”.... 

Do we notice the difference between the first conversation and the second conversation? 

*In the first conversation, the “"friendliness"” has no boundaries, and could lead to something that is haram.

*In the second conversation, the brother and sister have respect for each other, saying only what needs to be said, while being nice and formal. ........

Islamic Shari’ah has given us guidelines but the question is – where do we draw our own line? Do we draw it closest to the Shari’ah so as to be on the ‘safe side’ or that ours is a fine line between what’s permissible and haraam to the extent that at times, it becomes blurry???????

People try to find loopholes within the Islamic law and make the forbidden look permissible. .....

We live in a place and time where people tell us what is right, and what is wrong. 

We think  something is okay if "“everyone is doing it”". 

We spend so much time doing meaningless tasks that we forget about the things that really matter. It is time for us to start paying attention to things that matter,, even if they are as small as “"flirting”". There will come a day when a mother will forget her child. When our tongues and limbs will speak on our behalf. Let us remember this day. 

And prepare for it. Daily.

“"Your souls are precious, and can only be equal to the price of Paradise. Therefore, sell them only at that price."” 

— Ali ibn Abi Talib

May Allah guide us all to please him in the best of ways. 

So,Alhamduillah i have explain Flirting with the opposite gender in the Name of Islam in much better form if you have any doubt or against it please let me know by comment 

Jazakallahu khairn,

Allah knows the Best